Am I overbearing? Or is My Wife Just Lazy? -Long Story?

No, you are not wrong. There has to be a balance in everything. I understand that you are overworked and stressed out with all the responsibility over your shoulders to provide and care for your family and still manage to strive for some happiness. Well, I think she just got used to her new lifestyle as a housewife and a mom, and this is not easy on her either. Well, yes, you could expect her to keep up with the house and stuff, at least I would, but maybe she is going through some kind of depression? Have you talked to her about this possibility? I think it was a good idea for her to pursue the Transcriptionist career at home, because then she would have a more flexible schedule and be home more for the baby and you. I find myself in kind of your situation right now, except my husband works (drives truck over the road), but is never home (2-3days a month if so). I absolutely do EVERYTHING -- I mean everything possible -- I work, I clean the house, I wash the car, I mow the gr, I have a vegetable garden (save money in groceries), we have 2 dogs (I provide all the care, bathing, feeding, walking, etc), I pay all the bills and settled ALL our debts (depending on him, we would be deep down in debt), still do volunteer work and am going back to college for nursing. So, yes, I totally understand your feeling of being overcharged with everything. Feels like we're playing this game alone, it is discouraging and stressful. But if that serves as comfort, you are doing a good job as a husband and provider. I know many men out there who are not working and care less about their families. My husband cares less about me, and him being over the road driver he spends too much money, more than he should. We don't have any kids and we're in our 30s now. There has to be a way to talk her into motivation and action, without being pushy. I know it's easier said than done, because you want things to start changing right now. But it can take some time. You guys are still so young and I think you love each other very much, and the baby is living proof of that. So maybe you could both seek counseling (I know this sounds cliche' to say), but it is a better solution than letting things get worse and wind up in divorce. You would not want that. You got into this marriage with high hopes of honoring each other and loving each other, sticking together through thick and think. Why after a couple of yrs would you guys step away from this? Your marriage is worthy of all the work and the effort, so please don't give up. The vows you guys made when you married should be kept -- in sickness and health, etc -- you guys are not liars, are you? I know you are not. You are just going through some stressful times right now, and believe me, as ALL couples go one time in life or other. Marriage is not a bed of roses all the time. It takes both to make it work, to cherish it. I am sure you guys CAN be happy.